This article is for you if:
I always feel great reading those quotes, but I’ll also admit that reflecting on the quotes and phrases prompts me to wonder:
Since 2009, I’ve been on a journey to answer those two questions and learn about authenticity and authentic living.
In 2009, I first heard about Bronnie Ware’s article “Top Regrets of the Dying.” Reading the article fueled a fire in me — I was determined to avoid all of the regrets — especially the first one:
“ I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. “
As I began to focus on living true to myself, I discovered some challenges — mostly in the form of authenticity-crushing “self-talk.”
My “self-talk” lead me to justify or validate "inauthentic" decisions. Often those phrases were one of the following:
How about you? Do you have authenticity-crushing “self-talk”? Perhaps your self-talk is holding you back from authenticity living like my self-talk held me back?
Through years of self-reflection and self-work (with the help of coaches, counselors, books, and courses), I discovered how the “inauthentic” actions I took were directly tied to my beliefs, perspectives, and self-talk. I learned how to shift my perspectives and beliefs to align with what I wanted for my life, and thus I started to live more authentically.
Living authentically is life-changing; it empowered me to make significant life shifts:
My eleven year (and counting) journey to cultivate authenticity hasn’t always been easy, but it has been worth the work!
Over the years, I studied and implemented a variety of frameworks, including:
In 2018, I was introduced to a tool that changed everything and made living true to myself so much easier — Human Design.
From my perspective, Human Design complements everything that I learned via the other methods and provides extra layers of depth that help me cultivate authenticity. The time, money, and energy that I’ve invested into understanding the Human Design System has paid back again and again. Through Human Design, I now have invaluable insights about myself, how I interact with other people, and how I can navigate life with more ease and authenticity. [I discuss Human Design and how it relates to authenticity in Part 3.]
My intention for you and my aim in creating this three-part series is to make it faster and easier for you to enjoy the benefits of living true to yourself.
Avoiding that top regret of the dying doesn’t have to be as hard as it seems — you simply need the tools to shift your perspectives and beliefs to align what you want for your life. That is what I’ll discuss in Part 2 - Understanding authenticity. Specifically, I define authenticity for you, describe my Four Components of Authenticity™ and share a daily practice for each component. For each daily practice, I'll also list the common missteps to watch out for. Being aware of the missteps will help you catch and replace your authenticity-crushing “self-talk.”
Are you ready for the next step? Click here to continue with Part 2: Understanding Authenticity.